Same Sex SL Marriages
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Susie Boffin
Certified Nutcase
Join date: 15 Sep 2004
Posts: 2,151
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11-18-2005 20:17
This thread isn't about the morality of such things or about "does your first life partner know about it" but more about the weird comments I get. In first life I am married to a man but in second life I am married to a woman. To me it is no conlict of interest but sometimes I hear comments from males that go like this: "Hey you are married to another girl so I guess you are a lesbian" which I usually answer "No I'm not a lesbian I just happen to be in love with her." There is usually a period of silence before he says "I don't get it". I usually respond with "Thats OK there is nothing to get. Don't lose any sleep over it." Other weird comments, from males, are "Can I watch?" Is it that hard to understand how two people of the same sex can be second life partners and yet be straight in first life? After all this is only a game hehe. 
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Ayame Sapeur
~*Model Princess*~
Join date: 19 Sep 2005
Posts: 167
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11-18-2005 20:19
I think it makes sense.
Thats what I like about SL.
You see what a person is truely like ^.^
For instance, Im an annoying, vain, puddle of emotions! ^.^
-Ayame Sapeur<3
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Ursula Madison
Chewbacca is my co-pilot
Join date: 31 Jul 2004
Posts: 713
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11-19-2005 00:18
As the wise (albeit evil) Lo Pan said, "Shut up Mr. Burton! You were not brought upon this world to get it!" 
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Torley Linden
Enlightenment!
Join date: 15 Sep 2004
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11-19-2005 00:22
From: Susie Boffin
In first life I am married to a man but in second life I am married to a woman. To me it is no conlict of interest but sometimes I hear comments from males that go like this:
"Hey you are married to another girl so I guess you are a lesbian" which I usually answer "No I'm not a lesbian I just happen to be in love with her." There is usually a period of silence before he says "I don't get it". I usually respond with "Thats OK there is nothing to get. Don't lose any sleep over it."
Other weird comments, from males, are "Can I watch?"
Those kind of comments from guys are generic and I hear them too often. It is boring and trite. I like to say, "Bring me something new, please!" |
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Seth Kanahoe
political fugue artist
Join date: 30 Jan 2005
Posts: 1,220
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11-19-2005 01:13
From: Susie Boffin Is it that hard to understand how two people of the same sex can be second life partners and yet be straight in first life? Honestly? I don't care. Whatever bloats your goat. That being said, I wish you happiness and the best of luck. |
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Mulch Ennui
15 Minutes are Over
Join date: 22 May 2005
Posts: 2,607
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11-19-2005 01:28
can I watch?
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Surreal Farber
Cat Herder
Join date: 5 Feb 2004
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11-19-2005 04:16
Damn.. I can't find Siggy's post, so I'll paraphrase... "Finding out that hawt girl you just banged is a guy... priceless.
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Starax Statosky
Unregistered User
Join date: 23 Dec 2003
Posts: 1,099
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11-19-2005 04:28
My partner in Second Life is a goldfish.
I'm sick of all the stupid questions I get.
Iis it really so hard to understand that? Those crazy, narrowminded people really piss me off!!
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blaze Spinnaker
1/2 Serious
Join date: 12 Aug 2004
Posts: 5,898
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11-19-2005 06:31
You're sick of the stupid questions from the goldfish?
Have you considered divorce? Marriage counselling?
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Milo Bukowski
Lag-induced oversteer
Join date: 23 Dec 2003
Posts: 305
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11-19-2005 06:31
Can I watch? From: Starax Statosky My partner in Second Life is a goldfish.
I'm sick of all the stupid questions I get.
Iis it really so hard to understand that? Those crazy, narrowminded people really piss me off!! |
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blaze Spinnaker
1/2 Serious
Join date: 12 Aug 2004
Posts: 5,898
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11-19-2005 06:33
From: Susie Boffin This thread isn't about the morality of such things or about "does your first life partner know about it" but more about the weird comments I get. In first life I am married to a man but in second life I am married to a woman. To me it is no conlict of interest but sometimes I hear comments from males that go like this: "Hey you are married to another girl so I guess you are a lesbian" which I usually answer "No I'm not a lesbian I just happen to be in love with her." There is usually a period of silence before he says "I don't get it". I usually respond with "Thats OK there is nothing to get. Don't lose any sleep over it." Other weird comments, from males, are "Can I watch?" Is it that hard to understand how two people of the same sex can be second life partners and yet be straight in first life? After all this is only a game hehe. And people have a hard time with all my ALTs. I bet if I was a lesbian I'd be more palatable.
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Darkfoxx Bunyip
Registered User
Join date: 8 Oct 2005
Posts: 121
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11-19-2005 06:37
in Second life as with RL whatever catches your fancy go for it.
I think love goes beyond any border we humans set and yes even across the species border.
So if you want to marry your goldfish go for it. 0r your same sex love of your life or that guy that's a ferret in a tiny submarine...
after all it's all human what's sitting behind the computerscreens. =^.^=
BTW the 'can I watch' question is easy to understand. i bet a lot of girls would love to see two guys making out too... =^.~=
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Trinity Serpentine
Schwan's Avitar Reject
Join date: 1 Oct 2003
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11-19-2005 10:19
From: blaze Spinnaker
I bet if I was a lesbian I'd be more palatable. Does that mean you'd taste better? 
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Aurael Neurocam
Will script for food
Join date: 25 Oct 2005
Posts: 267
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11-19-2005 16:24
hehe... with mustard and catsup. |
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Tahisha Fairplay
Master Guardian
Join date: 29 Aug 2004
Posts: 5
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11-19-2005 18:58
From: Torley Torgeson Those kind of comments from guys are generic and I hear them too often. It is boring and trite. I like to say, "Bring me something new, please!" i like to use a variety of answers, like "yeah, you can watch, as long as it's on tv" "yeah, you can watch my tail as i walk away from you" or "yeah, you can watch my foot connect with your butt for a narrow-minded question" and they seem to know what i'm talking about |
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Michael Seraph
Second Life Resident
Join date: 9 Nov 2004
Posts: 849
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11-19-2005 19:50
From: Ayame Sapeur I think it makes sense.
Thats what I like about SL.
You see what a person is truely like ^.^
For instance, Im an annoying, vain, puddle of emotions! ^.^
-Ayame Sapeur<3 This is one of the funniest posts I've seen in the forums! Do you really think you "see what a person is truly like" in SL? In SL people pretend, they act, they might behave the way they do in RL, but they certainly don't have to. In SL I'm fairly quiet and do a lot of flips, somersaults, cartwheels. In RL that just ain't the case. LOL |
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Susie Boffin
Certified Nutcase
Join date: 15 Sep 2004
Posts: 2,151
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11-19-2005 20:38
From: Michael Seraph This is one of the funniest posts I've seen in the forums! Do you really think you "see what a person is truly like" in SL? In SL people pretend, they act, they might behave the way they do in RL, but they certainly don't have to. In SL I'm fairly quiet and do a lot of flips, somersaults, cartwheels. In RL that just ain't the case. LOL Some of you may have missed my subtle point. Take what you see in SL at face value. If you want to combine it with your first life go for it but you may be sadly disappointed. Get a boob job and go to the personals websites.
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Lisse Livingston
Mentor/Instructor/Greeter
Join date: 16 May 2004
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11-19-2005 21:15
In RL I'm married to a guy. In SL I'm married to a female panda. Seems simple enough to me!
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Yuriko Muromachi
Blue Summer
Join date: 4 Jul 2005
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11-19-2005 21:16
As long as both partners (RL and SL) know and are are okay with the situation, then I don't see there's any issue. What other people react or think isn't important as what you think.
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Susie Boffin
Certified Nutcase
Join date: 15 Sep 2004
Posts: 2,151
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11-19-2005 23:11
From: Yuriko Muromachi As long as both partners (RL and SL) know and are are okay with the situation, then I don't see there's any issue. What other people react or think isn't important as what you think. You mean we need our first life's partners consent to what we do in second life? I don't think so..... I can see it now. I interupt my husbands watching of a football game to ask. "honey do you mind if I have carnal relations with a 20 foot tall dinosaur in SL?" The slap upside the head I would get would have nothing to do with the dinosaur I can assure you.
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Yuriko Muromachi
Blue Summer
Join date: 4 Jul 2005
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11-19-2005 23:32
From: Susie Boffin You mean we need our first life's partners consent to what we do in second life? I don't think so.....
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WynterWolfe Sieyes
Registered User
Join date: 22 Oct 2005
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11-20-2005 07:39
From: Susie Boffin You mean we need our first life's partners consent to what we do in second life? I don't think so.....
I can see it now. I interupt my husbands watching of a football game to ask. "honey do you mind if I have carnal relations with a 20 foot tall dinosaur in SL?" The slap upside the head I would get would have nothing to do with the dinosaur I can assure you. yes, it'll be all about interrupting the football game. Oh, congrats on your wedding, and no, I don't wanna watch.
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Hank Ramos
Lifetime Scripter
Join date: 15 Nov 2003
Posts: 2,328
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11-20-2005 07:42
I was married to my RL husband here in SL for awhile, then we drifted apart. He left me for Ratchet and Clank. |
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squall Murakami
Burning SOMETHING
Join date: 5 Sep 2005
Posts: 84
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11-20-2005 07:44
how did i know that this would happen?
*sigh*
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Val Fardel
Registered User
Join date: 11 Oct 2005
Posts: 90
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11-20-2005 08:30
From: Michael Seraph This is one of the funniest posts I've seen in the forums! Do you really think you "see what a person is truly like" in SL? In SL people pretend, they act, they might behave the way they do in RL, but they certainly don't have to. In SL I'm fairly quiet and do a lot of flips, somersaults, cartwheels. In RL that just ain't the case. LOL My experience, since the early days of UO, with the anonymity of the internet is that people's true personalities are amplifed to a great extent. Sorry but I don't believe most of the people you meet in SL are such impecible actors/actresses that they can be someone totally different in SL than in RL. Get to know someone well in SL, or any other MMOG where they have a high degree of anonymity, and I believe you get to know a purer form of the actual person. RL dampens and restricts us to a very large extent. Even those that claim not are restricted subconciously by aproval/disaproval of family and friends, by work retrictions by society at large and even by the physics of nature. VERY few of us manage to live RL outside of those restrictions. What you most often see in SL is a more clear view of a person where all of their hidden fantasies and desires come to the surface. A complete jerk in SL is almost certainly one in RL once the barriers come down. I hope you understand I'm not talking about superficialites like doing backflips while standing around. As for the original post I think that those that make rude, uncaring comments to her are exactly the same people that in RL would either; one, make the same rude comments or, two be to scared to least they get the crap kicked out of them. Either way the inner proclivity to rudeness is almost certainly still there. |